CRAIGSLIST.COM CONTROVERSY FROM THE VIEW OF THE ADULT ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY AND PHONE SEX OPERATORS
There are so many angles from which to approach the articles that are currently being published regarding the adult entertainment industry and craigslist.com that this writer, who happens to be an avid fan and customer of craigslist, and a phone sex operator, isn't quite sure where to begin.
So with as much passion as a particular public official, Chicago Cook County Sheriff Tom Dart is making his statement about craigslist by suing them, this responsible, equally important citizen is going to express her views in order to balance the scales of justice and make certain the general public has the opportunity to see a less political, more realistic, well-rounded truth of not only craigslist, but other issues surrounding the world in which we live, the adult services offered, and supply and demand.
Let's take this cake one bite at a time by beginning with this issue of prostitution. I will begin by clarifying there is a huge difference between illegal activities and the phone sex operator industry. There is nothing illegal about advertising the service I offer. The company who employs me, Phone Sex Kingdom, has been in business eleven years, is very reputable, and has a zero tolerance for anything illegal. We are arguably the best in the business. Although you won't hear me argue that. I wouldn't associate with a company who misleads, mistreats, or abuses our laws.
That being said let's put some very clear perspective on how many sites Mr. Dart might want to consider suing if he gives much consideration to where the opportunities for prostitution begin.
Why not just start with the window of the internet alone, then go from there? This is being written from first-hand experience. Let's address these dating sites, and remember many of them are endorsed by conservative, professionals, who are well-known. Men and women go on everything from well-meaning free dating sites to the more, in your face sites, that go far beyond basic dating services. People may have long term, dating, or friends listed. Or they may have alternative lifestyles or married but looking.
I, personally have blocked out anything beyond dating or long term because I want someone who is at the same place or looking for something similar to what I'm looking for. But then when you meet this person who has painted himself to be an upstanding, 43 year old gentleman, and he turns out to be a 53 year old party animal looking for a "piece" isn't that misleading? But is it the fault of the site owner that Joe Nice has turned out to be Joe Dirt Bag who wants to know my favorite position (and I don't mean political) before he knows my last name, my dog's name, or what I like to do during the Summer? No! It is our responsibility as consumers to beware.
Now let us take a second bite of the cake and address the broad, truth about what "prostitution" really is in life. Merriam-Webster sums it up as the following: 1) the act or practice of engaging in promiscuous sexual relations especially for money (note: not just for money) 2) the state of being prostituted : debasement
Broken down a little further, which is certainly necessary. Debasement is to lower in status, esteem, quality, or character. Surely a politician with ambition has never or would never lower himself to such a position! Prostitution takes on many forms and it's not always the trading of money for sex between strangers. Quite frankly it's my view that most intimate relationships share in prostitution.
"Honey, if you bring home the bacon you can have sex every other night."
Wife to Husband, it may be unspoken but it holds water, "You didn't take out the trash, thank me for dinner, or buy me that ring I wanted so you're going without this week." Bold? Absolutely! Is there truth in my thoughts?
Many of you would choke on your own tongue before you admit it in Lady's Bible Study, but you know I'm right. And for the men reading this, you're probably thinking I've hit the nail on the head. But I can't help but wonder if you would be brave enough to discuss this with your wife, girlfriend, or teach your college student that these are the cold, hard facts of life!
Another nibble of cake. Yes, as a phone sex operator I do receive calls on a daily basis asking if I offer "in service" or "out service". That is because the consumer has failed to read the large print on my ad that clearly states "I do not escort so don't even ask". I make my money legally and it is up to someone, who seeks me out by the way, to either accept my services or reject them. I work with my brain, not on my back.
For those who may not agree with phone sex services allow me the opportunity to expose the views that many of us who are in this line of business and our clients share. The men who use phonesexkingdom.com range from the legal age of 18 to men in their 70's.
Yes, some are young. But if they are old enough to sign the dotted line at the post office to fight for and die for their country then they are of consenting age. Many of our callers are happily married men who would rather use our phone sex service than to cheat on their wives who have lost interest in sex. Many are lonely, or people who have been hurt. Some have tastes that step outside of what the average American (whomever that may be) considers the norm. But if they're calling us, expressing their most intimate desires, we are prepared, educated, intelligent, women who are meeting their needs. Supply and demand.
You can pass judgment on whether what I do for a living is right or wrong because we all have opinions. But come on people, let's draw a line in the sand of when it's time for politicians to stay out of our lives!
Craigslist.com has provided the information up-front to policing officials. They have not hidden information. This is a profitable business that is following the rules and someone who is seeking higher ground politically wants to cost him his business in a time when our economy is hurting like most of us have never seen in our lifetime.
If he's going to clean house he might want to start sweeping every bar, casino, restaurant, dating web-site, massage parlor, and every other public place where men and women are propositioned on a daily basis.
Don't believe me? Take a trip to your nearest casino on a weekend night, watch those women who are being handed stacks and stacks of chips by out of town business men, then follow them. And while you're monitoring, look for that gold band on his left hand, then check out her empty ring finger.
About 10 years ago I met a very meek, mild-mannered, elementary school teacher who was trying to raise two daughters after her husband died. At that time she confided in me that, in her small town, she was advertising on another very popular website, prostate massages for $100, because she felt desperate about feeding her girls and maintaining the mortgage she was left with. If you think a prostate massage was all those men in big, fine homes, who drove the best of cars was getting, you might want to re-think this situation that was never brought out. I can't help but wonder if it was because at that time that particular site didn't charge to advertise personals.
For the final bite of cake, let me add another personal experience that is as true as the sky is blue. When I first moved to this state and was working in a very advanced position for a well-known financial institution I was approached in a national chain restaurant by a man and woman who were quite a bit older than me. He worked for the Governor of the state in which I reside, who happened to be Republican. She is now an elected Republican official in this very same state. So be careful if you believe there are partisan lines here that are left-wing, because that is not the case at all. Yes, I'm telling you that two, married Republicans are swingers. Do the politicians really want to dance this dance with the adult entertainment industry?
Take care of the individuals who are breaking laws, but there is no need to kill the messenger who has been forthcoming in providing whatever information the police have asked for in breaking up illegal activities. Craigslist.com has played by the rules.
There's always icing on the cake so in closing I will suggest to you, the reader, to look into countries where certain activities are legal and check out some of their statistics, divorce rates, political, police, and incarceration spending. Perhaps it is time for our basic "checks and balances" to be re-checked.
Bailey Addison, PSO
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